3 Reasons Why Women Sabotage Their Relationships ~ Check it out!

When we are talking with our girlfriends about guys, no one comes right out and say that I am going to sabotage my relationship. Most of us want to grow our relationship, so that it leads to true love and lasting happiness.

Would you be surprised if I said there are countless women who without intent are sabotaging/blocking their own potential of having a long lasting relationship? Many women are putting out the spark before the fire is ignited.

Stop and think about the next three scenarios related to sabotaging relationships then ask yourself honestly: "Have I done that" or "Do I do that?" If you are still not sure, ask one of your girlfriends, hint here, not your girlfriend who will just agree with everything you say, but the one that tells it like it is.

After looking at yourself or talking to your girlfriend, and the answer is a maybe to any one of these scenarios, then it is time to rethink your approach, adjust your attitude, think outside the box, and take a leap of faith to potentially connect with Mr. Right.

#1. You’ve refused to go out with a guy because he didn’t fit your perfect picture or your checklist.

A guy asked you out, and you refused to go out with him because he did not have the items on your checklist or he did not fit your perfect image in your head of Mr. Right. You know the list I am talking about i.e. he has to be handsome, a certain height, drive a certain car, have money etc. At some point, most girls create a fantasy of their perfect man or about their Prince Charming riding on a horse and sweeping them off their feet.

Whether this is because we seen to many Cinderella Stories, or to many reality shows, but this image/fantasy is stuck in our head, so when a typical guy cross our path, the checklist is pulled out sometimes literally and figuratively to compare and contrast the man in front of us. However, a surprising number of those images/fantasies are unrealistic, and are based on superficiality or just outdated values.

Ladies, step away from the checklist, the man in our fantasies may not exist, but the man that is in front of us maybe able to connect with us, so that the fairy tale ending of walking into the sunset can occur.

#2. You’ve judged a guy based solely on looks, and ignored all the other great qualities
Ok, hit the "Y" key if you have done this. I have been guilty of this one, of judging a guy solely on looks, and ignoring the fact that he had other qualities and characteristics that I like to see in the man.

We see a guy from a distant at a party, and he looks ok, then when he approaches you see that he has pimples, or his teeth are not straight or he is dressed weird, but he is funny, sweet, and kind. We all know that great looks don't last, that is why the health and beauty industries reports over 6 billion dollars a year in profits.

Remember a man with a loving spirit, and kind heart goes a long way, then the one that has a Brad Pitt's face only. So be careful when looks are your only criteria.

#3. You have a pattern of getting into arguments with your significant other -- for no real reason.
Sometimes my girlfriends call me to tell me about their fight they just had with their significant other. When I ask what it was about, it is often for no real reason. One was about the darn toilet seat being left up and another about using guest's towels. This list goes on and on.

So for this one ladies, let's be honest and objective as you can, is the argument really about the toilet seat, or the guest's towel. Probably not, but a symptom of a bigger issue, but it is easier to fight/ague about the toilet seat then to address the real issue.

Often, we are placing transference on the current relationship based on past relationships or we are hurt about something that our partner did or did not do, but whatever the issue is it is rarely about the toilet seat.

As you go about your day, keep in mind that it takes two to tangle, and a good beginning helps to create long lasting sustainable relationship, so the fairytale has a happy ending.

What are your thoughts?

The Top 3 Male Turnoffs

Ladies, I want to discuss a subject that I was discussing with my friends during ladies' night out. We were talking about how to attract a good man, and then I asked them, "What do you think turn men off by our behaviors?"  We know it is important to know how to get his engine roaring, but it is also a good idea to know what can destroy the engine. We need to know what turns men on and off. By knowing what types of behaviors will destroy, the engine will help us to stay in the driver's seat to keep the spark, and engine going in the right direction for a long relaxed ride.  After a heated discussion, with the girls, we came up with what we believe are men's top three turnoffs by women's behaviors:

• Turnoff # 1: Trying to change him
• Turnoff # 2: Flakiness
• Turnoff # 3: Ultimatums

Read below for more detail:

Turnoff # 1: Trying to change him

I don't know one woman who has not tried to change at least one man in her life time either intentionally or unintentionally.  You heard these saying before: I had to train him, or I had to retrain him.  Now ladies, if it was up to us, some of us would change the person  from top to bottom, how he dresses, his hair cut, how he eats, how he drives, how he walks, etc etc.

Which makes one wonder, what did you like about the person from the start if there is so much you want to change?    Ladies, if this is you...just stop it...there is a famous saying that "Women marry men hoping they'll change. Men marry women hoping they won't." 

Let's spend more time on accepting them "as is" even when he chews with his mouth open.  Moreover, if you can't accept him "as is" then don't date him. As after all of your hard work of nagging/ yelling about him changing, he may be well-groomed and trained for someone else who will accept him for who he is.

Turnoff # 2: Flakiness

Ladies, raise your hand if you fall into this category of not committing to plans or at the last minute, canceling plans or sabotaging the plans because you are not really into the guy, or your hair is not right, or you are bloated as well as being flaky just to be a flake. If you are constantly saying, "maybe" or I will pencil you in, then you may have given your guy the impression that he is an option vs. a priority.  Just think about that for a moment, would you stick around with a guy who canceled plans continuously. Let me answer for you ---"No" 

So let's be a woman about it, and in Wendy Williams' voice, "Say it like you mean" because if you are not going to keep the date, then don't even agree to it in the first place.  When he stop asking you out altogether, look in the mirror and ask yourself whether you were being flaky and/or if you were making him an option vs. a priority.

Turnoff # 3: Ultimatums

Again, raise your hand if you have done this one, where you said these famous words, "You better" or "If you don't, then I will."  Not only are these types of ultimatums often empty promises, but they are often ineffective.  Because if you don't follow through, you come across as going back to my number two  of being flaky as well as my number one  as trying to change him.   Keep in mind that a healthy, vibrant, and long term relationship, don't need ultimatums as when you are communicating honestly, openly, and directly than ultimatums are unnecessary.

The point of dating is about meeting a variety of different people, so by knowing what are your turn offs and what are the men's turn offs, it will perhaps lead to less frustration and more health positive dating/relationships experiences.

What other women's behaviors turn men offs?

2 Tips to Take Your Relationship from "So-So" to Spectacular

Have you ever wondered why some couples describe their relationship as awesome and others describe their relationship as simply "it's alright?"

After surveying my friends and family, the differences are minimal. The first thing that I discovered that most couples did not contribute their great relationships to hours of hard work. I was surprised by this response since that is what you usually hear when you talk to couples who have a great relationship. I found that it is small changes in attitude, connection, and behavior that can change a relationship from "so so" to awesome. Which lead me to my top two reasons that can assist you in taking your relationship from "so-so" to wow, awesome, spectacular and in the words of J.J from Good Times, Dynamite!

1. Unmet Needs/Unclear Expectations

I was surprised to learn that the main reason for break up is not communication issues, or conflicts nor physical incompatibility, but not fully understanding/addressing the other's needs. Most of the couples who have great relationships, expressed that their partner understood their needs, and that there were clear expectations of each other.

Whereas the couples in the "so-so" relationships often stated that their partner did not know them, or their needs were not being addressed. Example of this is one couple stated that she wanted more cuddling and affection time, and her partner felt that he was meeting her needs by not jumping out of bed right away after love making, and by snuggling during movie time. When I inquired if the couple shared their expectations? The response that I received was "No, but he should know what I like."

So one thing that will help your "so-so" relationship to be more spectacular is to share your expectations at least once a year, which will assist with more open, honest and direct communication.

2. Show and Tell Their Partner Some Love

The next big Ah moment was the women that are in a great relationship shared that they often showed, shared and expressed to their partner some form of love/connection continuously. The women shared that they let their partner know that he is appreciated, respected, honored, "the one" and loved. Surprisingly, these men who received genuine affirmations/love, shared that they often wanted to do more, help more, and spend more time with their partner because they knew that they were appreciated and loved for them with no strings attached.

So ladies, the next time your husband/partner does something nice i.e. cooking dinner, bringing your favorite treat home without you asking him to do so etc. make sure you let him know that you appreciate his efforts, and in time your relationship will go from "so-so" to great.

What tips do you have to keep your relationship from staying exciting, flourishing and wonderful?

PART 2--Should You Really "Stay Friends" After The Relationship is Over?

Previously we discussed the reasons for not staying friends, but here are three reasons to stay friends from the article Should You Really "Stay Friends" After The Relationship is Over? by eharmony staff.

1. Insist on a Substantial Cooling Off Period
There is almost no way that a human being can go from being romantically attracted to someone to being just friends in a short period of time. Emotions aren't switches that get flipped on and off. The old saying is that it takes half the length of the relationship to get over the relationship. So, a six-month romance requires a three-month healing period. It's impossible to be that precise with feelings but as a general rule - wait six months before trying to form a friendship. That means six months without phone calls, emails, and "how you doing?" texts. It's six months where you are completely out of each other's lives so that new relationships and new feelings can grow. If after that period of time, you still want to create a friendship with your old flame, you can start doing the groundwork.

2. Choose Your Venues Wisely
Attraction is a funny thing. Sometimes it just never dies. You may attend a 30-year high school reunion, see an old boyfriend, and have the same giddy feeling you did as a 16-year old. This nature of attraction must always be kept in mind and respected. Let's say you wait six months and meet your old flame to get reacquainted. Consider these possible venues:

1. Group of Friends Attending a Football Game, 12pm - Low Risk
2. Just the two of you at Starbucks. 1pm - Low Risk
3. Dinner with friends, 6pm - Medium Risk
4. After work cocktails, 6pm - High Risk
5. Late night drink, 10pm - Backslide Dead Ahead!

In fact, unless you're meeting each other with new romantic partners in tow, alcohol is a tremendous risk factor. You both need the judgment and restraint that comes with sobriety.

3. Build a Different Dynamic

Opposite sex friends need clear boundaries -- especially if they are involved in romantic relationships with other people. There are things about your interaction that need to change if you're going to be friends. For example, lovers often talk about very intimate feelings. Opposite sex friends who don't want to end up as lovers avoid these topics. There has to be a re-thinking of the ways that you interact.

This extends to your body language as well. Women often have a remarkable ability to tell if two people have had a romantic past. They observe the body language of these two people as they greet each other and talk; and they can predict with high accuracy whether they had a relationship together. They are very keenly observing the familiarity that two people with a sexual past have for each other - a kind of diminished personal space that regular good friends don't have. If you want to be friends with an ex, this is another area where you'll need to consciously work to reconsider your habits.

Staying Friends - is it a good idea? There is no definitive answer to this question. Just remember that building a friendship after a relationship is work. It isn't some easy lower gear you just shift in to. Before you say, "let stay friends" consider if it's what you really want, and whether it is worth the possible risks

What are your thoughts?

Let Your Light Shine

It is 16 days until Christmas, are you feeling excited, are your feeling blessed and thankful or are you feeling overwhelmed, anxious or stressed. If you answered yes to the latter part of the questions, then read below and see if you do not feel a weight lifted off your shoulder and your mind set free.

Let Your Light Shine

"Casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you."

1 Peter 5:7

"No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it."

1 Corinthians 10:13

"Anxiety in a man's heart weighs it down, but a good word makes it glad."

Proverbs 12:25

"Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven."

Matthew 5:16

"I will lift up my eyes to the mountains; from whence shall my help come? My help comes from the LORD, who made heaven and earth. He will not allow your foot to slip; He who keeps you will not slumber. Behold, He who keeps Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.

"The LORD is your keeper; the LORD is your shade on your right hand. The sun will not smite you by day, nor the moon by night. The LORD will protect you from all evil; He will keep your soul. The LORD will guard your going out and your coming in from this time forth and forever."

Psalm 121:1-8

"In everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus."

1 Thessalonians 5:18

"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

Philippians 4:6-7

"Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful."

John 14:27

"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change and though the mountains slip into the heart of the sea; though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains quake at its swelling pride."

Psalm 46:1-3

"The LORD also will be a stronghold for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble; and those who know Your name will put their trust in You, for You, O LORD, have not forsaken those who seek You."

Psalm 9:9-10

Are you a Phenomenal Woman?

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size

But when I start to tell them,

They think I'm telling lies.

I say,

It's in the reach of my arms

The span of my hips,

The stride of my step,

The curl of my lips.

I'm a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That's me.

I walk into a room

Just as cool as you please,

And to a man,

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees.

Then they swarm around me,

A hive of honey bees.

I say,

It's the fire in my eyes,

And the flash of my teeth,

The swing in my waist,

And the joy in my feet.

I'm a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That's me.

Men themselves have wondered

What they see in me.

They try so much

But they can't touch

My inner mystery.

When I try to show them

They say they still can't see.

I say,

It's in the arch of my back,

The sun of my smile,

The ride of my breasts,

The grace of my style.

I'm a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That's me.

Now you understand

Just why my head's not bowed.

I don't shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud.

When you see me passing

It ought to make you proud.

I say,

It's in the click of my heels,

The bend of my hair,

The palm of my hand,

The need of my care,

'Cause I'm a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That's me.

Maya Angelou

Are you the Change that you wish to see in the world?

I'm sharing two of my favorite quotes

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." 

Mahatma Gandhi

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Marianne Williamson

Every day I decide to be the change that I wish to see. I make a conscious effort to walk, talk and interact with the world around me in a positive way as I know that I'm making a difference to make the world a better place.

Do you know that you make a difference? Share your thoughts.

Do You Need Some Encouragement?

Peace of Mind

It is the first day of December. Thanksgiving is over, and the Christmas Season is coming fast and furious. Are you feeling excited, driven and connected to family and friend? Are you anticipating the new year will bring you Love, Laughter, New Opportunities and Abundance in every area of your life? If you answered NO. Read the list below and see if it does not lift your spirits.

God Cares

You say: 'It's impossible'

God says: All things are possible ( Luke 18:27)

You say: 'I'm too tired'

God says: I will give you rest ( Matthew 11:28-30)

You say: 'Nobody really loves me'

God says: I love you ( John 3:1 6 & John 3:34 )

You say: 'I can't go on'

God says: My grace is sufficient (II Corinthians 12:9 & Psalm 91:15)

You say: 'I can't figure things out'

God says: I will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5- 6)

You say: 'I can't do it'

God says: You can do all things ( Philippians 4:13)

You say: 'I'm not able'

God says: I am able (II Corinthians 9:8)

You say: 'It's not worth it'

God says: It will be worth it (Roman 8:28 )

You say: 'I can't forgive myself'

God says: I Forgive you (I John 1:9 & Romans 8:1)

You say: 'I can't manage'

God says: I will supply all your needs ( Philippians 4:19)

You say: 'I'm afraid'

God says: I have not given you a spirit of fear ( II Timothy 1:7)

You say: 'I'm always worried and frustrated'

God says: Cast all your cares on ME (I Peter 5:7)

You say: 'I'm not smart enough'

God says: I give you wisdom (I Corinthians 1:30)

You say: 'I feel all alone'

God says: I will never leave you or forsake you (Hebrews 13:5)

4 Secrets to a Spectacular Relationship

I'm always looking for great articles on love and relationships to continue to improve my relationships, so I found this quick read by Nicole Yorjo titled "4 Secrets to a Spectacular Relationship". The article was insightful and the tips were easy to implement without spending any money. These four love moves will bring you closer to your partner and increase your level of intimacy and connection. I included tips # 1 and #4, but read all 4 tips to improve your love life.

#1. Understand Each Other's Needs

"The main reason marriages break up is not conflict, communication problems, or physical incompatibility," Orbuch says. "It's frustration -- the day-to-day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts -- that is most damaging." To diffuse that frustration, share your expectations with each other. Maybe you desire more affection and he craves more relaxed couple time. "And be sure to check in with your partner once a year, as added pressures or life changes can create new expectations," Orbuch says.

#4. Focus on the Good

The best way to make your relationship better is to work at fixing what's wrong, right? Nope. "The most effective way to boost fun and passion is to add positive elements to your marriage," Orbuch says. "That positive energy makes us feel good and motivates us to keep going in that direction."

This doesn't mean that you can't feel -- or talk about -- anything negative, but "pretend you are weighing your interactions on a scale," she says. "If you want a happier relationship, the positive side needs to far outweigh the bad." The more you honor the love and joy in your bond, the sooner you'll transform your partnership into one that is truly great.

I implemented these two tips with my partner and our relationships have improved significant as he knows exactly what I need out of the relationship and I understand his needs more clearly. With both of us focusing on the good, we bring out the best of each person. Try all four tips and see if these tips do not improve your relationship as well as feeling extremely loved and supported.

So join me in getting fit and healthy by changing our mind, body and spirit one day at a time.

54 Tips for Losing Weight (Part 3 of 5)

54 Tips for Losing Weight

21. Keep healthful snacks at home and at work.

22. Limit your cheese consumption to reduce fat and saturated fat. Use cheese and lunchmeat with less than 5 grams of fat per ounce.

23. Add calorie counting or fat-gram counting to your food diary for a few weeks if your weight loss is slowing down. Maybe you're missing something.

24. Substitute herbs and spices for salt.

25. Shop for food when you are not hungry, and use a shopping list.

26. Replace ground beef with ground turkey or soy crumbles in dishes such as spaghetti. Don't skip the protein in your meals; find a leaner substitute.

27. Eat three vegetables a day.

28. Always eat sitting down.

29. Request that your family and friends respect your efforts to lose weight and get fit.

30. Take a walk when you're stressed or angry.

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What do you dare to dream?

Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards. When

people ask me what really changed my life eight years ago, I tell them that absolutely the most important thing

was changing what I demanded of myself. I wrote down all the things I would no longer accept in my life, all

the things I would no longer tolerate, and all the things that I aspired to becoming.


Anthony Robbins

 

Question of today is: What will you no longer accept in your life? 

 

Reach for the sky. Dream Big, Love Hard, Laugh Often and Live your life to the fullest.

Happiness

Happiness

By Alfred D. Souza

For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time to still be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time . and remember that time waits for no one.

So stop waiting

until you finish school,

until you go back to school,

until you lose ten pounds,

until you gain ten pounds,

until you have kids,

until your kids leave the house,

until you start work,

until you retire,

until you get married,

until you get divorced,

until Friday night,

until Sunday morning,

until you get a new car or home,

until your car or home is paid off,

until spring,

until summer,

until fall,

until winter,

until you are off welfare,

until the first or fifteenth,

until your song comes on,

until you've had a drink,

until you've sobered up,

until you die,

until you are born again

to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

A GOOD WOMAN

A good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others.

She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person

she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind.

She is quite capable of articulating her needs.

A good woman is hopeful.

She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true.

She knows love, therefore she gives love.

She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated.

If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.

A good woman has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance.

She knows that she will, at times, have to inspire others to reach the

potential God gave them.

A good woman knows her past, understands her present

and moves toward the future.

A good woman knows God. She knows that with God the world is her

playground, but without God she will just be played.

A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past.

Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons, meant to bring her closer

to self knowledge and unconditional self love.

I am a good woman. Are you or Do you know a good woman?

SMILE

SMILE

Author Unknown

A Smile costs nothing, but gives much.

It enriches those who receive, without making poorer those who give.

It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.

None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it,

and none is so poor, but that he can be made rich by it.

A Smile creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business,

and is the countersign of friendship.

It brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad,

and it is nature's best antidote for trouble.

Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen,

for it is something that is of no value to anyone, until it is given away.

Some people are too tired to give you a smile

Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give.

http://www.ZigZiglar.com

12 Ways to Experience Complete Contentment

Contentment

"A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones."

Proverbs 17:22

All the days of the afflicted are bad, but a cheerful heart has a continual feast."

Proverbs 15:15

"Godliness actually is a means of great gain when accompanied by contentment."

1 Timothy 6:6

"If they hear and serve Him, they will end their days in prosperity and their years in pleasures."

Job 36:11

"Rest in the LORD and wait patiently for Him; do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, because of the man who carries out wicked schemes. Cease from anger and forsake wrath; do not fret; it leads only to evildoing."

Psalm 37:7-8

"O satisfy us in the morning with Your lovingkindness, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days."

Psalm 90:14

"For He has satisfied the thirsty soul, and the hungry soul He has filled with what is good."

Psalm 107:9

"The fear of the LORD leads to life, so that one may sleep satisfied, untouched by evil."

Proverbs 19:23

"Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need."

Philippians 4:11-12

"If we have food and covering, with these we shall be content."

1 Timothy 6:8

"Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, 'I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you.'"

Hebrews 13:5

"Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ's sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong."

2 Corinthians 12:10

4 Top Things Men Should Never Do

I read this article by Diane Oatis, "10 Things Husbands Should Never Do" and I went wow. I absolutely agree with everything that she noted on the list. "Guys, we love you, we really do. But as wonderful as you are, every so often you do something that makes us want to jump out the nearest window (or push you out first). Please, please, don’t ever…"


My top four from the list are:

• Be unimpressed by a meal that took a lot of time and trouble. I don’t know whose fault this is (Food Network? Julie and Julia?), but every so often we get the idea that it would be fun to make stock and spend the day basting. If the result is less than earth-shattering, say something nice anyway.

• Know it all, especially in public. Oh, honey. While you’re going on at length about whatever it is, we’re taking the temperature of the room, and we know everyone’s starting to fidget.

• Say anything remotely critical about our new haircut. Sometimes getting a new cut goes well; sometimes it doesn’t. Usually we know the difference. Don’t rub it in.

• Expect a medal for doing a little housework. Umm…it’s your house too, right? For now, we’ll give you the bronze. Maybe someday, if you work hard enough, you can pick up a gold.

If you do not want to sleep on the couch

or

be in the dog house

or

get the cold shoulder when you want some loving

or

have your mate thinking of ways to kill you in your sleep......

then please, please do not make any negative, critical, or comical comments about my top four things men should never do.

WHO ARE YOU?

I AM……

 

A child of God

(Rom. 8:16)

 

Redeemed from the hand of the enemy

(Ps.107:2)

 

Forgiven

(Col. 1:13, 14)

 

Saved by Grace through Faith

(Eph. 2:8)

 

Justified

(Rom. 5:1)

 

Sanctified

(I Cor. 7:14)

 

A new creature

(II Cor. 5:17)

 

Partake of His Divine Nature

(II Pet 1:4)

 

Redeemed from the curse of the Law

(Gal. 3:13)

 

Delivered from the power of darkness

(Col. 1:13)

 

Led by the Spirit of God

(Rom. 8:14)

 

A Son of God

(Rom. 8:14)

 

Kept in safety wherever I go

(PS. 91:11)

 

Getting all my needs met by Jesus

(Philip. 4:19)

 

Casting all my cares on Jesus

(I Pet. 5:7)

 

Strong in the Lord and in the Power of His Might

(Eph. 6:10)

 

Doing all things through Christ who strengths me

(Philip. 4:13)

 

WHO ARE YOU? This is the ? of Today
WHO ARE YOU?

What does your attitude say about you?

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Submitted by Emma Jo Krause to

There once was a woman who woke up one morning,

looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head.

Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today?"

So she did and she had a wonderful day.

The next day she woke up,

looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head.

"H-M-M," she said,

"I think I'll part my hair down the middle today?"

So she did and she had a grand day.

The next day she woke up,

looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head.

"Well," she said,

"today I'm going to wear my hair in a pony tail."

So she did and she had a fun, fun day.

The next day she woke up,

looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head.

"YEA!" she exclaimed,

"I don't have to fix my hair today!"

Attitude is everything.

Be kinder than necessary,

for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

Live simply,

Love generously,

Care deeply,

Speak kindly

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass.

It's about learning to dance in the rain.

What does your attitude say about you?

Encouragement

This is the season of Joy, Happiness and Peace

This is the season of Joy, Happiness and Peace. Are you feeling joyful, happy and at peace? Or are you feeling a little discouraged because your money is not right, your son/daughter is on drugs, you lost your job and you are not sure how you are going to meet your family's needs. Whatever the reason is Jesus is the reason for the season, so don't let nothing steal your joy, happiness and peace.

Joy

"How blessed are the people who know the joyful sound! O LORD, they walk in the light of Your countenance. In Your name they rejoice all the day, and by Your righteousness they are exalted."
Psalms 89:15-16

"You have put gladness in my heart, more than when their grain and new wine abound."
Psalms 4:7

"The sound of joyful shouting and salvation is in the tents of the righteous; the right hand of the LORD does valiantly."
Psalms 118:15

"Those who sow in tears shall reap with joyful shouting. He who goes to and fro weeping, carrying his bag of seed, shall indeed come again with a shout of joy, bringing his sheaves with him."
Psalms 126:5-6

"For then you will delight in the Almighty and lift up your face to God."
Job 22:26

"These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full."
John 15:11

"Yet I will exult in the LORD, I will rejoice in the God of my salvation."
Habakkuk 3:18

"For our heart rejoices in Him, because we trust in His holy name."
Psalms 33:21

"Though you have not seen Him, you love Him, and though you do not see Him now, but believe in Him, you greatly rejoice with joy inexpressible and full of glory."
1 Peter 1:8

"Then he said to them, 'Go, eat of the fat, drink of the sweet, and send portions to him who has nothing prepared; for this day is holy to our Lord. Do not be grieved, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.'"
Nehemiah 8:10

"I will rejoice greatly in the LORD, my soul will exult in my God; for He has clothed me with garments of salvation, He has wrapped me with a robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom decks himself with a garland, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels."
Isaiah 61:10

"The righteous man will be glad in the LORD and will take refuge in Him; and all the upright in heart will glory."
Psalms 64:10

"But let the righteous be glad; let them exult before God; yes, let them rejoice with gladness."
Psalms 68:3

"Therefore you too have grief now; but I will see you again, and your heart will rejoice, and no one will take your joy away from you."
John 16:22